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1 AFTER TREATMENT: Emotions after Cancer Treatment
will because it will not be read soon enough. Also, it again. Some individuals come to understand grief
should not be stored in a safe deposit box because the on their own. For others, it may be difficult to share
contents will not be available in a timely manner. feelings of loss and grief. However, many people find
that talking with others helps them:
Consider the following as you do the preplanning:
• Cultural traditions • Recognize losses
• Faith-based practices • Express emotions
• Cost • Connect feelings and reactions to the
• Location experience of loss
• Individual preferences such as a traditional • Understand loss and grief feelings and
service or more personal style reactions as normal
• Sharing plans with loved ones • Find ways to cope
• Adjust more quickly to life after loss
Ask for help if advance planning seems too hard • Feel stronger and more capable than before
to do alone. A loved one, friend or an attorney can
assist you. Let others do the planning if thinking In some cases, it may seem that certain individu-
about a funeral or memorial service is too difficult. als do not recognize your loss or that you are griev-
ing. It may be that they feel unable to deal with the
GRIEF intense feelings that they have about loss and grief.
Grief is a natural response to loss. People grieve after Some friends or loved ones might act like they
the loss of someone or something that was important do not want to talk to you about your feelings. They
to them. Some losses are more difficult than others. may really want to help you, but do not know what
When a loss is especially important, grief is more to say. They might not understand how important it
than simple sadness. Finding ways to express your is for you to be able to talk about your loss. If this
grief can help you adjust to the loss. happens, try explaining that you need someone to
support you by listening. Let them know you do not
Grief is a process that happens over a long expect them to make everything better.
period of time. It can include a wide range of thoughts
and feelings. Even though these feelings and reac- Children need the support of both fam-
tions can be painful, it is important to remember that ily and teachers as they grieve. The Foundation
grief is a normal, healthy response to loss. has developed a fact sheet to help adults un-
derstand how to support school-aged children
Anyone who has been involved in the life of through difficult times. Go to LIVESTRONG.
another may experience loss and grief. This can org/what-we-do/program/livestrong-at-school
include loved ones, friends and caregivers. Talk with for free online lessons (K–12) and other important
your health care provider if grief becomes too much information.
to handle. You can ask for a referral to a licensed
social worker, counselor or a hospital chaplain for The pain of grief generally subsides as it is
help dealing with your loss. Some people find the shared. Good listeners may be found among loved
support they need through their faith-based organi- ones, friends and members of your health care team
zations or support groups. such as a hospital chaplain or an oncology social
worker. You can also share with members of faith-
Important losses that are not grieved are diffi- based organizations or in-person and online sup-
cult to heal. Unresolved grief can rob you of energy port groups.
and joy and prevent you from moving forward in life
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